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There are many salient lessons hidden in the passion week and Easter ceremonies. One only needs to look a little deeper to see these wisdom that have been embedded in these wonderful Christian rituals. It is celebrated the world over, that women were the ones who stayed with Christ till death. Even when the twelve or eleven remaining disciples fled. Thus, it became the bragging right of women in Christendom. This is one of the activities in the Bible that spurs women to over-zealousness in religious and church activities.

A little deeper in the account of Luke, precisely Luke Chapter 23:28, Christ gave a “caveat emptor”. We do recite it in stations of the cross, without paying much heed to it. Christ said… “daughters of Jerusalem, weep not for me, but for yourselves and your children”. Perhaps, Christ was irritated by their over dramatic display of hurt. Maybe their aggrandizement and public show of religion without Christ, got to his guts. Perhaps he saw that they neglected their husbands, homes and neighbours in public display of following Christ, yet bore false witness against him the night before.

It will shock you to see and know the things women do to be noticed and to remain relevant in the scheme of things in religious environments. Women neglect their first God-given responsibility : their husbands and home, just to appear religious and committed to the church. Times without number, my husband and I, have mediated on issues bothering around wives neglecting the home for church activities. In such situations, you often hear the women raising statements like… “my husband does not want me to serve God”.

My dearest sisters, in all sincerity, those things you do in the church, are they intended for the service of God or are the intentions rather best known to you? Those women wailing on the street of Jerusalem could be likened to those of us who cook at home and turn all the food into the coolers and carry it off to the priests and pastors while our husbands and children remain hungry. Women who can sacrifice everything for the attention of the priests and pastors. Women who worship and adore pastors and priests and treat their husbands with total disregard and disrespect. Christ is telling us today to weep for ourselves and our children and not for him.

Let’s not get it wrong. Still in that crowd on the way of the cross, Christ recognized the sincere efforts of some women and their commitment and handed them over to one of his trusted disciples, to take care of. In the same vain, women who are sincerely committed to the things of God are commended. They do their due diligence with consideration to their homes. The Bible said so in Proverb 31:10-29. My fellow women, Christ does not resent or reject the services we render in sincerity of heart and intentions. If we recall, from the Bible account. It was around this season that Christ encouraged the woman with the jar of Alabaster to scrub his feet with her hairs and apply such expensive scent on his feet. That act appeared extravagant and controversial, but it was not done at the detriment of her home. In fact, there is nothing we give to the church and the priests that would be too much., so long as they are not given at the detriment of our homes. Such acts of goodwill should actually be done in agreement with our husbands and children where necessary.

How I wish that our pastors and priests, the representatives of Christ in our time, would be as blunt and as bold as Christ was to tell all the “daughters of Jerusalem ” to go weep for themselves and their children ; by asking all those “food-flask” carrying women if their husbands and children have eaten. By telling those attention seeking women that the attention of their husbands is all they need. To tell them, just like Jesus did, that their husbands also deserve such expensive gifts they spoil the priests with. Letting them know that the right thing, is that the priest share of the food they cooked for their husbands and homes and not their husbands and children eating the remnants of the food they cooked for the priests.. This will help the women get their priorities right.

So that, having journeyed with Christ through His passion and are singing His Hallelujah, we would know that while it is necessary for us to make sacrifices for the church and our priests, our homes should not suffer. Such that the risen Christ would not reject our efforts and sacrifices and tell us to go weep for ourselves and our children. I come in peace. Hallelujah
Shalom!

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KNEEL AND WIN

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The spade of incessant mindless killings in our land these days is terrifying. When we spoke about keeping up with the New Normal, no one envisaged that shedding of innocent blood and sounds of war will force itself to be part of our New Normal. There’s hardly any day that passes without tales of terror, killing and maiming of people. No corner of this country is safe from this menace. It happens anytime, anywhere and anyhow. People no longer sleep with both eyes closed. Hmmmm, the tragedy of our time.

Those paid to protect us are overwhelmed. The sight of security agents no longer gives confidence. Of a truth, the sight of security operatives strikes fear  in the hearts of the masses because, their ranks have been infiltrated such that terrorists could actually disguise as security operatives and masquerade in their appearance. What is actually happening? How come we no longer see life as sacred. Why is killing becoming a norm in our society?

I’m not against self-defense, self-emancipation, or fighting for one’s right, but I’m against bloodletting and blood shedding. It’s high time women rose up for we are at the receiving end of all killings. Women are the ones who are kidnapped, raped and abandoned. We are the ones whose sons are brutally killed; whose husbands are gruesomely slaughtered in cold blood. We are the ones whose siblings are butchered, shot and restricted on daily basis. On either side of this craze going on, we have fallen victims of our own negligence.

We have abused our God-given feminine prowess so much that we no longer have any influence on our men. We have manipulated our men so violently that we could no longer restrain them from to their early graves. God has given us Powers to positively influence and not to manipulate our men as we do. Please, let’s do some deep thinking to know the best way possible to stop our men from using violence to address issues in life.

Let us all go to this war on our knees like the Esther of old. Let every woman go to her king prayerfully and tell Him why He must not endorse this gallows upon which our husbands, brothers and sons would be hung. Let’s bear in mind that our land shall be desecrated and our daughter violated if  we throw caution to the winds. As we do our best possible to be security alert, let us be conscious of the fact that horses are prepared for war but safety is of the Lord.

Shalom!

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A story was told in Matthew 25:14-30 of a certain king who was going on a journey. He called his servants and entrusted his properties to them. To one, he gave 5 talents; to another 2 and yet to another, he gave one talent. The Bible was specific that he gave each according to his abilities. As it was in the Bible days, so it is in our time and with our relationship with the creator. God has given each and everyone of us talents according to our abilities. Surely, He knows your abilities and also mine.

We are not gifted equally, yes, but there is no one among us who does not have talents. God made each of us to be unique and He knows us individually, therefore, He has given us talents that we can manage. He cannot give us more than we can handle. As it is with talents, so it is with challenges. Our God cannot allow us go through challenges that are beyond us. The Bible says that many are the afflictions of the righteous but in all, God delivers them.

We all have strengths as we have weaknesses. This is a call to rediscover our areas of strength; develop such areas and grow in those areas. Let’s quit brooding over the things we do not have and objectively focus on the ones we have. All things will work together for our good if we believe. What we see as weakness/challenge can be turned to testimony/greatness if we remain focused and work hard.

Among women, we see lots of envy, jealousy, gossip, backbiting, and rancor because some of us feel that others are gifted more than we are. Those shouldn’t arise at all. Definitely, we all can’t be gifted equally and there is sincerely no need for envy. There is no need to focus on the other person. What is required is a sincere effort to us at the talent God has given us to serve Him and to affect lives positively.

There is need to intentionally work hard to increase the little we have so that it is not taken away from us. That the other person is more talented than you are in some areas, does not matter. What matters is that you have your own talents; thread with them. Make something good out of them. Fan your fire to limelight and you’ll be happy you did.

Shalom!

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CRUSH THE LEMON; MAKE LEMONADE

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A picture of two families during the COVID-19 pandemic compulsory stay at home went viral on social media. The first family, a family of four, was very happy to have the opportunity of spending some quality time together. Even without food, the members of that family played games, discussed happily and together, learnt new things. The second family, also a family of four, was seen brooding. Members of that family sat at the different ends of the room wishing the holidays end quickly so they could go their separate ways. Those pictures got me thinking. What seemed like a punishment to one family was a golden opportunity for another. What was a curse to one family was a blessing to another. What am I saying?

Life is basically what you make out of it. We all had plans that we were supposed to execute during the time we were mandated by the pandemic to compulsorily stay at home with members of our immediate families. What did we make out of that? In our daily hustle to provide; so many of us, members of the same household; do not actually know one another.

Spouses do not really know themselves. Parents do not know their children. Even, most children do not know the ‘real’ faces of their parents. All things, my Bible says, work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose (Rom 8:28). God has reasons for giving us that opportunity. He always has better plans for us.

Every day, opportunities are made available to us. What do we do with those? Every situation in life, good or bad, presents opportunities to us. Our attitude and reactions to such situations make the difference. Worries do not solve problems. We need to always stand up to challenging situations objectively. Often, what we see as problems present great opportunities for us to spend quality time with family, bond; reignite the love that brought us together as couples, rejuvenate dreams; and inculcate family values. It could be a time to make amends; a time to heal and try new things; a time to teach and learn from one another. It could be the best time to rediscover the purpose of life; a time to pray together as a domestic church and sincerely seek the face of God.

Yes, we are faced with a lot of challenges as individuals and as families. But we cannot afford to be seen brooding. Those could be our crosses. When the world is saying there’s a casting down, we (Christians) should be expressing that there’s a lifting up. There are, definitely, so many good things to learn from every situation if we are open. When life throws lemon at you, crush the lemon and make lemonade.

Shalom.

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